How Porn Can Ruin Your Sex Life
Always young. Always beautiful. Always new. Porn keeps dopamine surging in the brain. But at what point does chronic stimulation become chronic dissatisfaction? If you’re married and using Internet...
View ArticleCan’t She See I Need It?
Many men and women in long-term relationships are unhappy with the frequency they have sex. How can couples re-sync their desires? According to a report in the March issue of The Journal of Sex &...
View ArticleLust in Translation: Every Woman Is Horny in Her Own Way
This is a response to Noah Brand’s “The Myth: Men Are Horny, Women Are Not.” Men and women are wonderfully different. In fact, the more variety of strengths, interests, and other characteristics that...
View ArticleLearn to Love Your Libido
Ever feel ashamed of your sexual desires? Noah Brand talks about how to move past those feelings and trust your lust. Long ago, I heard a legend of a Sunday School teacher who taught the kids in her...
View ArticleMasculine Sexuality: What Gets Overlooked
Dr. Ley argues that the oft-blamed trope of “sex addiction” isn’t real. Almost anywhere you turn these days, if a man’s sexuality is news, it is usually news in a bad way. In the media, when a man...
View ArticleShould I Leave My Sexless Marriage?
Advice from YourTango about what to do when the love is still there but the sex has left the building. This article originally appeared at YourTango. When you said your wedding vows, was there...
View ArticleDear John: His Low Libido Is Bringing Her Down
This week Dear John addresses a low libido, a son’s discovery of porn, and a self-conscious, protective partner. This article originally appeared at GoLocalProv.com. Dear John, I have kind of the...
View Article“The subtext: men are sex-crazed maniacs and women aren’t supposed to like sex.”
This is a comment by Sarah on the post “The Truth about Porn and Relationships“. Sarah said: “I don’t have kids but actually my libido has diminished a bit as I’ve gotten older. I used to want sex...
View ArticleCan Men Tell The Truth About Sex?
Where are the male voices debating contemporary sexuality? No, really, where are they? I read a very interesting BBC article recently. The author, Sarah Dunant, spends some time outlining her own...
View Article“The lower-libido person still has some responsibility. Being less interested...
These are comments by Ulysses and wellokaythen on the post “On Withholding Sex“. Ulysses said: “When there is a libido disparity, there can be a temptation to over-complicate the situation. New couples...
View Article“My wife’s libido dropped while mine was strong, and we wanted to make it...
This is a comment by Arium on the post “On Withholding Sex“. Arium said: “I’ve seen a lot of skepticism about communications in the comments, often in the form of “What good would that do?” You might...
View ArticleSix Creepy Assumptions In “Five Things Men Do To Ruin Their Own Sex Lives”
Noah Brand responds, point by point, to a recent Cracked article that provides relationship advice for some kind of disturbing alternate world. Before I start getting mean, full disclosure: I greatly...
View ArticleF*ck Club
“The first rule about F*ck Club is: you don’t blog about F*ck Club.” I am Jack’s Nightmares. I show up either just before or right after my cousin Insomnia manifests, in those elusive moments when she...
View ArticleHow Much Sex is Too Much Sex?
D.A. Wolf gets into the question everyone wonders about and nobody wants to be the first to ask. Come on. It never really gets old, does it? The subject of sex – who’s doing it, how they’re doing it,...
View ArticleLosing My Libido: One Man’s Story
Amit Wehle awakens to face the loss of his gradual diminishing sex drive. The folk classic “Where Have all Flowers Gone” is often credited to Joan Baez, but it was actually written by Pete Seeger back...
View ArticleIs Being “Rock Hard” Worth Risking Your Life?
Male sexual performance supplements are largely unregulated, yet may contain dangerous drugs not listed on the label. We all get those junk emails for supplements that claim to do everything from help...
View ArticleOpen Thread: Unexpected Turn-Ons
What’s surprised you about your own tastes? We think we know ourselves, but there are always surprises. And nothing surprises us about ourselves like an unexpected corner of our libidos. Sometimes...
View ArticleMale Bodies and Objectification
When women objectify men’s bodies, how does that affect our cultural concepts of desire and agency? I’ve said it before, I’ll say it again: I love Pinterest. I know I am not alone in this. It is my...
View Article“As a transgendered person, I can no longer deny that one simple chemical can...
He takes a hand at bridge and has difficulty in keeping his mind on the game, with the result that he repeatedly trumps his partners tricks. — This comment of the day is from Eli, on the post An Open...
View ArticleDepression, Drugs and Loss of Libido
Your antidepressant might be affecting your sex drive and the state of your marriage. ___ As the stigma around talking about mental health issues slowly disappears (too slowly, for my liking, but...
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